I think that the best of both worlds, since a geek on geek relationship seems to me to be too specialized, and less able to handle non-geek situations. If you're lucky enough to live in a geek enclave, more power to you, but for the most part, too much of anything is poisonous.
I can definitely see how a geek-only relationship might seem over-specialized, but have you ever met a geek with only geeky interests? For instance, I am a geek. I'm very interested in computers. I'm also interested in theater and music. I play piano. I sing. I go to plays and concerts (of various types). Other geeks have other interests.
So, a geek/geek relationship might not be over-specialized after all. I agree with Heinlein, sometimes: Specialization is for insects. I want to know everything. In fact, that's my goal in life, that and enjoying myself along the way. I kinda hope I never get there, though; it'd be rather boring with nothing left to learn.
Also, with respect to specialized relationships. The more people in a relationship, the more ideas, the more interests, the more situations its likely someone will know the right thing to do in. Thus polyamoury is more robust.
Another demonstration of the increased robustness is such. One member dies. In a two-member situation, the kids just lost half their parents. All of them are probably really upset. In, say, a 5-member situation, the kids have more people to support them. Also, the other members have more people to support them, so they can support each other more effectively. As Spider Robinson said, if you and another share your pain, it becomes less. This applies even more so to larger groups.
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