I don't think anybody in this country subscribes to BDSM sites. The local paper is enough to either scare the living daylights out of you or if you're a true pervert, provide better entertainment then what the net can ever offer.
As seen on todays paper: the usual rape, kidnapping, torture, murder etc. just because a person happened to be female. Being born a female is a crime here, and if you are good looking, you deserve the capital punishment.
An average story on the paper goes like this - local bandit locates a good looking girl, asks for sex or marriage. Girl obviously refuses, and the bandit, obviously, kidnaps the girl, gang rapes her, sometimes keeps her locked away for days torturing her, makes her sign false documents, and finally lets her go. About half the time the girl would commit suicide shortly after.
Usually the bandits go into hiding after the crime, make association with some political party and start life afresh, maybe settling down in the same area. Sometimes the girl's family is threatened by the bandits so they don't press charges.
On some occasions, the criminals are caught, tried, and jailed.
In some situations, the girl is married off to the rapist, as per the decision of the community. This sounds unbelievably sick and I really don't know how this could work. It happens though.
Two kidnap / rape stories today (4th May). No suicides yet. Another story of a women getting sexually assaulted trying to visit her family in a hospital. There was also a weird classified - "Ms X, aged xx has run away from home after being severely tortured by her step mother. If anybody knows her whereabouts..."
No acid story today. For those who are unfamiliar with the concept, again, bandit approaches girl, girl refuses, bandit gets hold of some strong acid and throw it on her face.
That's basically the end of the girl's social life. The girl would have to wear veils for the rest of her life, and live with a burnt face. Nobody would ever marry her, and sometimes the injury is so severe, she'd eventually die.
The government is trying to control the sale of acid, but it's like trying to control the supply of knives so people don't butcher each other.
Sexual harassment is a part of everyday life here. It is expected that people will make obscene comments at women, rub up against them in crowded places, approach them and ask for their personal details. However humiliating that is, it is considered a part of everyday life.
As long as they don't get killed, maimed, kidnapped and raped (in no particular order / combination), it's still acceptable.
How about the culture? Technically, Bangladesh is a Muslim country, and as per the religious instructions, women should be well protected. However, the culture is drastically different from what the religion prescribed.
It is a social norm that every woman has to be married to give her an identity. A woman's identity is her husband.
Marriages are "arranged" most of the time. The bride / groom hardly has anything to say about this - it's the families who get married.
The problem is, it costs real money to get married. As per the Islamic law, the expenses of the marriage is supposed to be paid by the groom's family, and there is no concept of dowry. However, we conveniently borrowed this culture from elsewhere. So, if you are planning to get your sister or daughter married off, don't be surprised if the groom's family asks for hard cash, a bike, a 21" TV and maybe a watch. No dowry = no marriage.
It's not over with that. After the marriage, the husband may demand further freebies from his wife's family. Failing to deliver would mean torture, and sometimes, death. Death is usually administered by feeding them poison, or burning them alive. Most of the time, these scumbags are caught and punished, however, it's a common phenomenon.
Sometimes, it's torture and divorce, which means it doesn't make it to the papers.
There are a lot of poor, divorced women in this country (most with children). They are well accepted in the society because they have an identity of once having been married to a man. However, not being married will make you a pariah - you can't avoid it.
With the advent of modern science and technology, it's easy to predict the gender of the baby before a woman gives birth. Female infanticide is not uncommon. I believe that this is more of a problem in India, where such banners have been spotted - "spend xxxx now for a test, or spend xxxxxx in dowry later". Indians were always good at marketing, I'd say.
Maybe it's time for women in our country to evolve into awful looking, twice as strong, twice as large creatures with a natural talent at armed / unarmed combat. Maybe they should be bloody minded enough to show the society the finger, and not get married in the first place. Perhaps this would also take care of our population problem.
This country is unworthy of what nature had blessed us with.
If supporting evidence for a story isn't there, it makes it a personal rant. So I dug up some ugly stories. Please don't read them if you are disturbed by details of rape, burning and murder.
It had not been a pleasure.
Housewifes tortured and killed for dowry:
Acid burns / burnt alive:
1,184 women, kids suffered acid burns during 1999-02 - A quote from this link: "one woman becomes victim of violence every hour in the country".