Diabetics can also 'teach their body'. There is some misunderstanding here.. I don't think that diabetes or anxiety or anything is caused by 'failure as a person' (whatever that means). How can you fail as a person? You are a person, if you're alive. You can fail to be a well-developed person - that's an awkward phrase but what I mean is someone who is good in most things that people do - in science, sport, drawing, singing, poetry, playing music, writing. But I hope you don't take this as an insult because I'd be insulting myself, too!
I think that because nearly everyone has experienced a mild form of one social phobia symptom or another, and most people get over it with effort, they're too angry at anyone who claims to be unable to get over much more severe and comprehensive set of those symptoms to even consider viewing the problem objectively.
You're missing the point that if you have a mild problem, you have little incentive to make an effort to fix it. One well-developed dude said that our troubles are blessings in disguise, for they make us stronger if we face them with courage; and they force us to better ourselves which brings benefits and happiness that we could never foresee.
Therefore I do NOT qualify to say I know what the experience of an alcoholic is like, and I do NOT have the moral authority to say that because I "kicked" it with effort, so should they.
But if you did, they'd calmly reply that if they 'kicked' their anxiety habit, so should you, too. You make yourself out to be morally tolerant, but perhaps there's a bit of realistic defensive position here?
Yet that is what ignorant, self-righteous, smug, blind people are doing again and again in this thread with regard to social phobia, thinking that because they have experienced some degree of some of the symptoms and are not overwhelmed by them, or because they had them for a period and then were able to overcome them, people with severe social phobia have that same experience.
No, I'm not at all talking about this in reflection on my own anxieties and dealing with them; I'm talking about my own experience with having any sorts of problems and dealing with them. They are all the same, in the sense that if you focus all your efforts on it, and consciously teach yourself to be less egotistical, jealous, angry and lazy, you're bound to improve as the time goes by and eventually it'll be all gone.
If you want mathematical proof for this, you're obviously out of luck. There can't be one. You keep living your life and you will either eventually feel that this is true, or you won't. I think if you look back honestly you'll agree that you weren't making all effort you could, like a good samurai would. Well, maybe it does take a samurai-level effort to be free from anxiety or alcoholism or other things like that (too numerous to list).
You sit down and you say, that's just unreasonable. I don't think others had to spend so much efforts to get twice farther. That could be true, but are drugs going to make it easier for you in the long run? I seriously doubt it. You also miss the fact that if someone achieves easily, he is satisfied and won't want to scale a new height that is unsuitably hard for him. Someone like you, who will get strong by constant effort and certain discipline, may perhaps go farther.
If you have a nice comfy couch in your room, then maybe you'll find it easy to sort of roll from one side to another all day long; but your body will age faster and will accumulate illness while someone sitting on a hard carpet will stay flexible and strong even when he's 70. Unless of course he sits on his carpet only to agonize about not having something softer to wallow around in! :-)
This is not to say that all of the coping strategies listed (diet, exercise, yoga, CBT, compulsive self-discipline) do not have effect on anxiety. This is to say they have some effect, if practiced to a degree of samurai-like control over every aspect of the social phobic's life they reduce the problem from outright life-destroying to a degree where life is possible but agonizing, and still leave an enormous and life-crippling problem existing,
Well, here's a question for ya then: let's take yoga (I know quite a bit about it), and please tell me how much of it you tried and how far you got? And how much did that help?
Incidentally, I think one serious misconception here is that this stuff is for *controlling* anxiety (and other things). No, way off. It cures it and then you can stop doing it at all. Don't think of it as a 50-years affair, but rather 3-5 years. Of course, the hard part is that you may have to give up things you like and be more persistant and regular than you are accustomed to be.
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