I know how it is, trust me. Watching my mom handle her mother's death and handle closing the estate was sometimes hard to see... Often times it actually makes it easier to get over the death of the person though, you can take your mind off of it sometimes to deal with the busywork involved in the work. (It is a lot of work too, depending on the person... I remember my mom always needing to get extra copies of the death certificate, and then those copies need to be certified by a notary... pain in the arse.)
My understanding is that the best MO is to have the executor call them, tell them the circumstances, and tell them she's got the death certificate as proof. They may actually want to physically see it, which means you may need to mail it. IIRC, for it to be considered still valid and legal, it needs to go through registered mail or something like that, I remember my mom spending a lot of time with registered mail, notaries, and such... It's a pain, but it's a very honorable and heartfelt goal.
Best of luck to you.
<leonphelps>Yeah, now, uh, "sig," what is that?</leonphelps>
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