The world is already overpopulated and you want to add more people.
I disagree. Certain sections of the world are overpopulated, but certainly you must have never been to somewhere like any state in the U.S. that does not have a connection to the ocean. They are all very wide open and without many people except in certain clusters.
Lemmings will kill themselves in the case of overpopulation. That, is destructive. Loving one of your own sex is not destructive. If you want to talk on a purely biological standpoint, then think of it as a method nature uses to curve overpopulation.
I guess it is only biologically destructive from my point of view of the individual. I view children as a form of continuing your own life, and if you don't have children, you die when you die. If you have kids, at least some of your essence lives on in them. Of course, this is something that perhaps not very many people agree with.
When I go out in public, is it too much to hold my boyfriend's hand? Put my arm around him? Maybe? But kissing him goes too far? *snicker* Face it; hets are expected to be close in public when they are in love. Yet when gays want to do it, it's 'sick'.
I was giving an example a little more extreme than holding hands and kissing originally. I think I mentioned making "humping" motions and all that. I personally don't see anything wrong with kissing and touching in public, until it's to the point where it's overly distracting. For example in a movie theater, it's ok to kiss and touch each other, but once you start bouncing up and down on your boyfriend's lap and moaning that is going too far because it is disturbing.
People who hold beliefs like yours are worse, IMO, than people like Jerry Falwell. I like to call these people 'closet homophobes'. The problem is these people do not *realize* they are homophobic, and thus, at first, appear level-headed. Then they say something, or do something, which to them does not indicate a hatred of gays, but wounds any gay person around.
That is one of my pet peeves. Just because someone doesn't necessarily like homosexuality (the concept, I'm not talking about the people) doesn't make them homophobic (afraid of gay people) or hating gays. Personally, I don't really want to date women with blonde hair. That doesn't mean I hate or are afraid of blondes, just that I don't like that color of hair in a potential mate. My sisters are both blonde, and I love them a lot (in a non-West Virginian way of course.) What I don't like is the concept of homosexuality. That doesn't mean that I hate gay people. I have been friends with homosexuals in the past, they knew my opinion, strongly disagreed with me, but we still had respect for each other. That's very different than hate or fear from my understanding.
I've had coworkers like this, and if there was one thing I wish, it would be that they would accept to themselves that they hate gays. Trying to cover homophobia with a veil of 'open-mindedness' is far worse, in my opinion, than simply being blatantly anti-gay.
Only the paranoid delusions of those with a persecution complex would consider criticism or disagreement of a lifestyle to be hatred. Some people are Democrats and they don't like Republicans. Does this mean they hate them? They probably have some close friends and family that are Republicans. They still like the people but dislike the political views of the other person. This doesn't mean they try to go stop their Republican friends and family from voting either. Probably the worst that happens is they debate or argue about it.
I don't like when people try to force their opinions on someone else by calling them a bigot because they simply don't agree. I'm not specifically stating all of these things at you but in general. Using the examples of blondes again, they don't get offended when I say that I prefer girls with dark hair. If certain gay people are "wounded" by the words I say, perhaps they should reevaluate their acceptance of their own beliefs. I don't see anything really insulting by what I've said, and definitely nothing to indicate hatred or fear of their lifestyle.
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