Probably the only other event in my lifetime that I remember as well is the Challenger disaster, but this was the first imprinted memory of my generation.
Al Haig took a public beating after the "I am in charge here" gaffe. That statement got pored over almost as much as Clinton's definition of "is."
It seems that even though Haig was blustering his way around the White House, Cap Weinberger had the Pentagon in good order, and would not have likely followed any order from Haig. At least that is my reading of the transcript.
Haig sounded like the blowhard, while Weinberger was the voice of reason.
It is an interesting read, though, to see what happened behind the scenes. Hmmmm....that might make an interesting piece of historical fiction: Reagan dies, and in the resulting confusion, someone cries havoc and lets slip the dogs of war.
"...there is no limit to what a man can do or where he can go if he doesn't mind who gets the credit."
--Ronald Reagan, First Inaugural Address