As you said, respect is a two way street. Just because they are a teacher doesn't mean I have to respect them. I respect those people that respect me. When they sit in front of the class with a "holier than thou" attitude, there is no reason for me to have any respect for that person.
I do agree that pass is pass and fail is fail. I agree that a lot of these new teaching styles are bullshit. The only people who claim there feelings are hurt are the ones who don't want to work and are smart enough to realize that if they act alienated by bad grades that they can get out of trouble.
The laguage we use has nothing at all to do with respect. We can speak however and use whichever words we wish. There is such a thing as appropriateness and there are a fair share of kids that don't understand this. But because I choose to say fuck while I'm talking to a friend does not matter one bit. My style of dress also has no bearing on any of this. "High school is a place for learning!" and "Save that for college..." How does college differ in any way from high school? My style of dress, whether it be baggy pants or dockers had no bearing on whether or not I listen to a teacher, or whether I do my homework. How I dress is how I choose to dress, for whatever reasons I may have to dress that way. College is an institution of "higher learning" and parents and students pay a great deal of money to learn at these places. Yet it is acceptable to dress and act however one wishes on a college campus. Why is high school not the same. Why is it that people are so bothered by what we're wearing, or what we're saying, or who we're going out with. Since I graduated, moved out, went to college, I have realized that a lot of what parents do is out of concern to see us do better. But that doesn't mean that they can't be overly involved or overly concerned.
One of the most annoying things that happens when your in High School is the fact that your parents have the audacity to punish you for stunts they pulled in high school. Of course, when your caught, you should be punished. But all that does is teach one how not to get caught. If I want to buy fruit juice and ice cream everyday, then dammit, why can't I? And if the cash register says "no juice, no ice cream", then how hard is it for me to have my good friend standing next to me buy juice and ice cream as I buy his Doritos and Dr. Pepper. Skipping class is a part of high school. Not doing homework is a part of high school. Learning how to deal with your responsibilities is a part of high school.
All this is doing is trying to put someone/thing in control of the kids at all times. Parents can't control their kids all the time. That's because their human beings too. When your in high school you learn how to deal with your household responsibilities along with your school work responsibilities so that you can have more freedom to do the things you want to do. High school is learning responsibilities. High school is growing. High school is preparing to get out on your own.
My mom would have loved to have kept me under her thumb throughout high school. I wouldnt allow that though. I kept stuff from her, I lied, I learned to deal wiht my own problems. I learned how to handle my responsibilities. And when I needed someone, I would turn to her. She would give me "I want to helpyou but you never want my help so why should I help you when you ask for it?" Because I'm trying to learn, I'm trying to grow. I'm trying to handle my life and the situations that come with it. And when I have questions about life, or what to do in a situation, I ask, because you've been there, done that. Is this not understandable? When I left for college my mom forgot all about me. She said, I don't have to worry about you. You're taking care of yourself. When your in my home I worry because I have to keep an eye on you and protect you. Now I have been gone from home for two years, and just recently, due to some problems with my last employer that left me jobless, carless, and homeless, I moved back to my moms house. So I can get some shit togther, and figure out how I'm gonna get out and get going again. I'm turning 20 and at this point, am baically a bum. I can't get a job in this city, not even at fast food establishments. This after I was an Office Manager to a top producing Real Estate Agent. We worked as a team, the two of us. Making massive amounts of money in a very professional and white collar job field. I'm sickened that now I have to lower myself to trying to get hired at SmackDonalds or Taco Hell. But I have to do ti so I can get out on my own again. Is this what working hard and getting good grades gets us?
But now I'm off the topic.
A good parent is a good parent without good parenting software. A bad parent is a bad parent with or with out the software. Putting a childs grades or assignment record online isn't necessarily a bad idea.
But this is where the problems with the software come into play. Any website can be cracked. Any database can be cracked. All it takes is one student who gets pissed off at the predictament he's in with his parents because "the program said..." to make the software vulnerable.
This sounds like its more geared to be an administrative program. So why not leave it at that. Theres no need to let parents have access to all this information, especially since most of it's point less. Knowing what your child buys with his lunch money shouldn't be your biggest concern. I almost always went without buying lunch in order to stop somewhere on my way home. Or to help defray the cost of the new CD or DVD I wanted. Is this wrong? Sounds like a smart way of spending your money. Your child's eating habits are very easily established if you use your eyes and watch what your kid its while hes at home. If a parent wants to know if his child is doing his homework or ditching class, call. Or go in and see the teacher after school. Make an appointment to sit down and chat. Thats where good parents are good parents. They recognize a problem and ask the teacher if they feel theres a problem. This action is border-line, but spyware in the lunch room is far worse. It's more than an invasion of privacy, its as gay as a gymnast on shore leave (no offense to gay gymnasts in the navy or on shore leave, j/k).
Relationships are built on trust. This takes trust out of the equation completely. It puts a computer program in charge of your child while their out of your supervision.
Anyways, I've basically forgotten all the major points I wanted to make in this rebuttal. So I'm going to stop typing and get back to work on some PERL for my website.
And if you feel this is a flame, as implied by your ending line "[Let the flame fest begin]", I suggest you re-read that load of shit you posted and realize that your flamebait deserves the opinions of people who have an opinion on more than the foul mouths and disrespectful attitudes of "kids". It's probably because your in your 30's going back to school to get out of your dead end job, and annoyed by the fact that the "kids" won't accept you. FMlae not and be not flamed.
-- j0sh -- of course im over-dramatizing my statements, but thats how its done here, sensationalism, otherwise you wouldnt read it.
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