Well, for one thing my objection is not based on disgust. I mean, I have friends who are married to very ugly women. So what?
But truly, although I can't speak for all the "anti gay marriage" people out there, if I had my way, you would not be denied any of these things. You'd be denied enjoying these things openly.
Don't get me wrong. I don't think people's sexual relationships ought to be anybody's business, whether homo or hetero. So that's not what I'm talking about necessarily.
But if I had my way, homosexual relationships would never be accepted in the social "norm". ie: although I don't presume the right to dictate whether or not you have a relationship, I will try to prevent the demarginalization of your style of relationship if I can.
Let me draw a parallel. Note, I'm not equating. I just want to transfer my reasoning to a less contentious issue ok?
I am a lazy person. I've always been a lazy person. One of the things I enjoy most is to sit around and do absolutely nothing. OK, maybe watch some TV if I'm feeling ambitious.
If someone comes to my home and tries to force me to get off the couch and do something because "laziness is one of the deadly sins", I'll be very pissed off. They have no right to come into my home and tell me how to live my life unless my choices are having a real negative impact on them.
I think we agree on this.
But what if I took it further and demanded that society make allowances for my lifestyle preferences, letting me feel fulfilled in my job by requiring less work from me than my "hard working" co-workers? Why do they get to work at their own pace and I don't?
Or what if I complained that parents all over the country teach their kids that they should not be lazy like me? That somehow, being lazy makes me a bad person?
We're talking about going from one person being allowed to be him or herself to that same person trying to get everyone else to readjust their perceptions to include "laziness" as a perfectly acceptable alternative to "business".
THIS is where you and I butt heads. I'll march right along with you if anyone tries to take away your right to live your private life privately. But we're on opposite sides of the fence when and if you try to demarginalize a behaviour which, to the core, I object to.
I may lose. In fact, I think I am losing. My children will probably grow up thinking that it's perfectly fine to "enjoy the emotional fulfillment of forming a long-term loving bond with ..." well, with "whatever".
And I think that's tragic.
I hope I've clarified my position somewhat and I certainly hope I haven't used inflamatory language with you.
I strongly object to your lifestyle on moral grounds. (ie: I believe God told us that this behaviour is wrong.) Yours is not the only kind of lifestyle to which I object. My objection does not prevent me from dealing with you on a footing of equity and mutual respect.
However you must agree that the current "gay movement" is a movement for social revolution. It's a movement which aims to redefine certain paradigms. And while you and I may disagree on whether this redefinition is for better or worse, you have to admit that such a redefinition DOES directly impact everyone in society.
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