I totally agree.
It's one thing to say to a friend of yours, "I think site X sucks, bwahahahhaha!" and point and laugh.
It's another think to write the author of the site and say "You suck!". Then, you're talking in the second person, and have crossed a line into verbal abuse.
In particular, I think the guestbooks have an incredibly unfortunate capacity to be used in a bullying way, as many assholes write comments *intending to impress each other* with what big assholes they can be. This type of thing is a big part of how bullying occurs in real life. It's not even so much about the bullies hurting the victim - it's about them showing off their prowess to the other bullies. (At least this is my take on it, whatever.)
And so what, that you who have been on the internet a while, you know how public things are, that guestbooks can turn nasty, that one person's rude words are not the be-all-end-all judgment of the world visited upon you? Do you think everyone else knows this? What about little kids?
Do you think that just because YOU think a page is lame, that no one else likes it? Gimme a break! There is such variety in the world, who gives a crap if you don't like something? You've got enough other pages to visit, get on with your life... If you must, laugh with your friends about how unsophisticated someone's site is, but if you have any decency at all, please don't heap abuse on the person who wrote the site.
If you must abuse someone, go after some spammers!
Would you walk up to someone in person and tell them, "Your hairdo is really awfully unflattering!! And Jesus, look how fat your thighs are!" ??? I'm betting most of these bullies wouldn't. But somehow, on the net, it's all anonymous and they can just spew vitriol at someone and not care about hurting them. The common manners that (usually) protect people in real life are nothing on the net.
You know what? Sometimes people with thin skins have a lot to offer, dammit. Don't just condemn them because they're not as inured to abuse as you are. The net is not your personal stomping ground, to fuck with anyone whose artistic/coding/whatever talents don't measure up to your personal standards. Judge 'em privately, no big deal, they can't hear you, you may as well not exist to them. Rub it in their face, you're an asshole.
I dunno what else to say... I guess some people are just incapable of empathy. Or even decency.
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